I was trying to replace my rod bolts with ARP bolts.  The ARP bolt head is a teensy bit larger than the stock bolts and I cannot get the head to seat down on the proper surface.  Tried tapping with light hammer and tightening nut.  I am not going to grind the head of the bolt, use a 3 lb hammer, or fully torque the nut.  I'll stick with the stock bolts instead.  Any suggestions?

Part II.  The rods have an oil hole in the small end offset to one side.  I assume they have to be oriented in a specific direction.  The directions in the book (shown below) make no sense to me.  Can some one give me better directions?
Thanks