All Tremec transmissions have built in stops. Stops on a shifter are extra insurance, and can account for wear of the stops within the T5. Check the adjustment every now and then to make sure the clearance is adequate as out of adjustment stops on the shifter can cause more damage than no stops at all.
Here's a link to a thread about that, which includes a Tremec service bulletin you can verify for yourself by contacting Tremec.
http://forums.y-blocksforever.com/Topic80557.aspx?The 2 - 3 shift has to do with the way most manual transmissions are built and the fact that a T5 is not a racing transmission or a transmission for really high powered vehicles. The input and output shafts are directly inline. 4th "gear" simply locks the input and output shaft together. Where the two shafts connect is the weak link. Abuse the transmission or shift with too much power, and the transmission is going to break. This is true for most manuals, but TKOs and T56s, for example are built to support higher power and take more abuse than a T5, so you are able to get away with a lot more with those.
Can't help with the plug but as long as it doesn't hold some critical part in the shifter and goes into the transmission, it should work. It's a question to ask B&M. If that works, I would just put in the measured amount of fluid, I think 2.9q. I can never get the full capacity in the transmission if I use the fill plug. Never had a problem with a little less, but if I have the ability, I put in the specified amount.
Lawrenceville, GA